Moving is tough enough for adults, but when children are thrown into the mix, they often feel like they have no control, and worse, they feel like they are losing their friends. Fortunately, there are ways you can help your children make friends at their new schools.
Talk to them
Encourage your children to take their time. They can make a mental list of the types of qualities they are looking for in a friend. Perhaps they are looking for someone who’s funny or perhaps they are looking for kindness. Whatever they’re looking for, have them observe first before introducing themselves. Advise them not to talk about their old home too often. Other children won’t be able to relate and it will sound to them as if your child is insulting their home city.
Have them bring goodies
Treats or trinkets can go a long way toward making friends. Be cautious, though. Ask the teacher about school rules and potential food allergies.
Join the PTA
Perhaps you can get to know some of your children’s classmates through their parents. Set up playdates or throw a party.
Encourage extracurriculars
Both children and adults have an easier time bonding with people if they have things in common. Ballet class, music, art, soccer or debate club is an excellent way to meet people who share common interests. Find out what truly interests your children.
Sit with the lonely kids
There are always those kids in the cafeteria with empty seats next to them. It’s okay to join them. It won’t scar your child’s popularity for the remainder of his or her school career. They might even make some good friends.
If your children have a hard time making friends, don’t pressure them. They’ll make friends on their own time.
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